Ben Tyrer

Walking for the Men We’ve Lost

This 25km men-only charity walk isn’t about fitness. It’s about grief, survival, and speaking for the men who no longer can.

I’ve lost friends to suicide. Men I shared laughs with. Men who seemed okay on the outside but were fighting battles silently. Their absence never really leaves you. You replay conversations. You wonder what you missed. You wish you’d asked one more question.

I’ve also been there myself.

I’ve been in hospital, at a point where staying alive felt harder than giving up. That moment changed me forever. It broke me open—but it also shaped who I am today. I’m still here, not because I’m stronger than anyone else, but because I got help when I needed it most.

Too many men don’t.

Men are taught to stay quiet. To carry pain alone. To believe asking for help is weakness. And that silence is killing us. Every statistic is someone’s mate, someone’s son, someone who thought the world would be better without them.

This walk is for the friends I’ve lost and think about every day. It’s for the men who are struggling right now but haven’t said a word. It’s for awareness, for conversation, and for hope.

If this post reaches one man and makes him pause… reach out… stay—then every step is worth it.

Please check in on your mates. Please talk. And if you’re reading this and you’re hurting, know this: your life matters more than you realise.

I walk for those we’ve lost.
I walk for those still fighting.
And I walk because I’m still here.